Massaging Your Partner

Massaging your partner can be a wonderful way of sharing and giving, helping the relationship as well as easing tensions and preventing stress problems. Preparation is important in order to help release tired, aching muscles and create and overall experience. Here are a few guidelines:

• Choose a firm massage surface. A bed is not suitable, as it tends to 'give' under pressure. Instead spread several thick towels on the floor. Put a 'durry' under the towels, if it is too uncomfortable.
• Wear loose and comfortable clothes that do not hinder your movements and allow you flexibility.
• Make sure your partner is warm and comfortable.
• Relax and concentrate on the massage. If you are unsure about what to do, just start by stroking, then concentrate on tense areas.
• If you use aromatherapy oils, mix five drops to one teaspoon of a vegetable carrier oil, such as grape seed or almond for adults. Use half the strength for children under seven and quarter strength for children under three. Do not use essential oils to massage newborn babies.
• Never pour oil directly on to your patient's skin. Warm it in your hands. If you add oils during the massage, pour it over the back of your hand to warm it before rubbing it into your partner's skin.
• Vary the pressure and the length of the strokes you use, take your lead from the person you are massaging.
• Make your massage strokes flowing and rhythmic, keeping one hand in contact with the body at all times.
• Work in a comfortable way. But stroke towards the heart and finish by holding your partner's feet for a few seconds to 'ground' him.
• Do not massage anyone who has an infectious skin disease, an inflammatory condition such as thrombosis, is pregnant, chronically ill, in severe pain, or who has just eaten.